Last updated January 28, 2022 at 11:24 AM
To be successful it is not always enough to do more than the others. Here are 30 things you need to stop doing to yourself to be successful.
When you stop chasing bad things, you are giving the good things a chance to catch up with you. As Maria Robinson puts it so well,
"No one can go back and make a fresh start, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. "
Before you begin this transformational process you must stop doing the things that bring you back in time. Here are some ideas to get you started:
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1- Stop spending time with the wrong people.
La life is too short to go from time with people who kill your happiness. If someone wants you in their life, they'll make room for you. You shouldn't have to fight to find a place with them. Never insist on being valued all the time. And remember, it's not when people are standing next to you during your good times that are your friends, but those who are standing by your side in bad times are your true friends.
2- Stop running away from your problems.
3. Stop lying to yourself
You can lie to anyone, but you must not lie to yourself. Our lives get better only when we take chances, and the first, the most difficult of opportunities we have to take is honesty with ourselves.
4. Stop putting your needs on the back burner.
The most painful thing is loving someone too much that you forget that you are so special. Yes, it is good to help others; but we must help ourselves too. If only there was a time when you could follow your passion and do things that matter to you? This moment is now.
5. Stop trying to be what you are not
One of the biggest challenges in life is being yourself in a world who tries to make you like everyone else. You will always find prettier than you, someone will always be smarter than you, there will always be younger than you, but they will never be you. You don't have to change to make people like you. Be yourself and the right people will like the real you.
6. Stop hanging on to the past
You cannot start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the same chapter.
7. Don't be afraid to make mistakes
Doing things and doing it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a chess trail behind it, and every failure leads to success. You'll end up regretting the things you didn't do a lot more than the things you did.
8. Stop blaming yourself for your old mistakes
We can love the wrong person and cry over the wrong things, but no matter how bad things go, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and the things that are right for us. We've all made mistakes, struggles, and even things we regret in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you now have the power to shape your day and your future.
9. Stop trying to buy happiness
Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that make us happy are really totally free - love, laughter, and working on our passions.
10. Stop looking for happiness in others
If you are not happy with yourself, you will not be happy in a long term relationship with another person. You have to create stability in your own life before you can share it with someone else.
11. Don't be inactive anymore
Don't think too much or you'll create a problem for yourself that wasn't even present in the first place. Evaluate the situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse to face. Making progress comes with risk.
12. Stop telling yourself you're not ready
No one has felt 100% ready when the opportunity arises. Because most of the great opportunities in life require us to grow beyond our comfort zones. Which means we're not going to be really comfortable at first.
13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.
The relations must be chosen wisely. It is better to be alone than to be in bad company. No need to rush. If something is meant to be, it's going to happen - at the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you're ready, not when you're alone.
14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn't work.
In life, you will find that there is a purpose for everything you encounter. Some will test you, some will use you and some will test you To teach. But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
15. Stop wanting to compete with everyone for success
Don't worry about what others are doing better than you. Focus on breaking your own records every day. Success is a battle between you and you alone.
16. Stop being jealous of others
Jealousy is l'art to count another's blessings instead of yours. Ask yourself this, "What do I have that everyone wants?"
17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself
Difficult situations in life are sent for a reason - to allow you to change direction and take the one reserved for you. You cannot see or understand at all times what is happening, and sometimes it can be difficult. But reflect a little on the negative situations of the past. You will often find that in the end they have led you to a better place, to a good person, to a good state of mind, or to a positive situation. So smile! Let others know that you are much stronger today than you were yesterday, and you will be.
18. Stop holding grudges.
Do not live hatred in the heart. You will end up hurting more than the people you hate. Forgiveness does not mean, "What you have done to me is good." it means, "I'm not going to let what you did ruin my happiness forever." Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace, free yourself! And remember, forgiveness isn't just for others, it's for you too. You have to forgive yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
19. Stop letting others bring you back to their level
Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
20. Stop justifying yourself all the time to others
Your friends don't need it and your enemies won't believe you anyway. Just do what you know in your heart to be right.
21. Stop doing the same activities over and over without a break
Le time to take a deep breath is when you don't have time for it. If you keep doing what you are doing, you will keep getting what you are getting. Sometimes you need to take your distance to see things clearly.
22. Stop Underestimating the Beauty of Little Things
Enjoy the little things, because one day you looking back and you are going to find out they were big things. The best part of your life will be the little nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
23. Stop trying to make things perfect
The real world doesn't reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get results.
24. Stop taking the path of no resistance
Life is not easy, especially when you plan to achieve something worthwhile. Don't take the easy way out. Do something amazing.
25. Stop acting like everything is fine when it's the other way around
It's okay to collapse for a little while. You don't always have to pretend you're strong, and you don't have to keep proving you're okay. You shouldn't be concerned with what other people think either - cry if you need to - it's healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do this, the sooner you'll be able to smile again.
26. Stop blaming others for your problems
The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for the things that go through, you are denying your responsibility - you are giving others power over that part of your life.
27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone
Realizing this is impossible, and trying it will drain you. Just giving someone a smile can change the world. Maybe not everyone, but their world. So narrow down your target.
28. Stop worrying too much
Worry will not strip you of its burdens the next day, on the contrary it will deprive you of its joy today. The way to check if something is worth rehashing is to ask yourself this question: “Will this problem continue in a year? Three years? Five years? “If not, then don't worry about it.
29. Stop focusing on the things you don't like
Focus on what you want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great achievement. If you wake up every morning with the idea that something wonderful is going to happen in your life today, and you pay close attention to it, you will often find that you are right.
30. Stop being ungrateful
No matter how we are, good or bad, we have to be thankful for our life every day we wake up. Someone in the world is desperately fighting for what you have now. Instead of thinking about what you don't have, try to think about what you have and not everyone has.
Last updated January 28, 2022 at 11:24 AM